Daughter Scolds Absent Father For Having Too Many Kids

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    Font - AITA for saying my father needs to stop having kids? AITA for saying my father should stop having kids? I (20f) am the second eldest daughter of my father. I have an older sister Vel (23f), a younger sister Iza (14f), a younger half brother Tae (3m) and a younger half sister Jezlyn (nearly 2f). There's also my step siblings, Jinhae and Heejin (9m & 8f).
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    Font - My father recently told us that his wife is pregnant again. When we weren't enthusiastic about it, he got upset and said we should be excited for another sibling. I said that another sibling just means more babysitting for us, and that it isn't fair on us. If he wants a lot of kids, he needs to be at home a lot more than he is and needs to put his children first. He's his own boss and he can choose what hours he works, so he has no excuse to never be home. If he is home, he's mostly doing
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    Font - Vel and I have always been expected to be babysitters. However, due to my job I travel for work quite often so it usually falls on Vel. Vel is 8 months pregnant with her own second child, and is already raising her own 3 year old. He said that he works to provide for us and I said that's fine, but he needs to be at home more. He doesn't need to stop work, but he needs to be at home more. I said I'm fine providing for our family as I have the money, so long as it means he's home more becau
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    Font - He said that it's selfish to not want to help out around the family. I lost my temper and said he's the selfish one by having so many kids and expecting his eldest to just babysit despite us both having kids ourselves. He said we're choosing to take care of them to which I replied we really had no choice because he was basically forcing us to take care of them, and if we didn't they'd end up neglected. My sister literally has no life of her own because of this - she can't get a job becaus
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    Font - Our stepmother tries when our fathers at work, but she's really struggling with depression, disability and a custody battle with her ex over their two kids so she needs our help. We're happy to help her because she genuinely is struggling but is trying her best, he's just not trying. I said he needs to stop having kids until he can man up and raise them properly. He said he does his best and I'm an ungrateful hole and that I can start looking for my own place because he's sick of my attit
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    Font - RevRos 9 hr. ago hole Enthusiast [6] NTA. I think it's high time you and your sister moved out. Keep an eye on your younger siblings, because they will be next up for babysitting and be prepared to intervene for them. Your dad sounds like a real piece of work, but I don't think telling is going to work. Show him the consquences. 558 Reply Share
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    Font - Overall Butterfly_16 OP . 9 hr. ago I'm already looking into moving out. She's got a place with her friends but she can never stay there because of our siblings. 225 Reply Share
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    Font - SPO W ArmChairDetective38. 2 hr. ago No...you have a good heart and so does your sister BUT THOSE KIDS, SIBLINGS OR NOT, ARE NOT YOU OR YOUR SISTERS RESPONSIBILITY. Your sister needs to learn the word NO when it comes to be asked or rather told to babysit. Just go to her apartment and block his number and SM. She wanted to have all those kids, it's time for HER to figure it out ..she CHOSE to continue to have kids even though she knows her disability doesn't allow her to care for them wit
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    Font - mamawheels36. 1 hr. ago Op you are so NTA But I think the reality is you need to leave (I saw your sister already did) And make a mental decision now, if you guys are going to be willing to raise your siblings... I am not suggesting you need or should... Just start the thought process. Because as you and your sister pull away it'll go 1 of 2 ways. He'll step up, or everything will crash and burn. You guys have to stop helping... It's just fueling the dysfunctional fire. If it crashes and
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    Font - V Vaxental 9 hr. ago Partipant [4] NTA - I do agree with him on one point though, you should probably move out. Because I doubt this is healthy for your mental health. 160 Reply Share
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    Font - Acceptable-Mood-9884 9 hr. ago NTA. If he gonna get more babies he gotta take responsibility for them. Taking care of kids is the responsibility of the parents or legal guardians not siblings. Your dad only loves to do the bedroom stuff and office. He ain't doing sh around the house.
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    Font - Acceptable-Mood-9884 9 hr. ago And he isn't helping her much with her struggles regarding the custody and stuff smh ↑ 26 ↓ Reply Share
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    Font - nerdiesthomemaker82 9 hr. ago ΝΤΑ. Move out. Get your own life. And when your father and stepmother can't take care, it's the right thing to call CPS (sorry :(). Chances are high, that he will just keep on having more children, as long as you cover up. And if you move out there is also a high risk that your younger siblings will have to take that responsibilities, what actual is a form of abuse/neglection (and also what happened to u and your sister was). You are not really helping your s
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    Font - Weary_Panic6498 - 9 hr. ago NTA. Siblings # exclusive, live-in sitters. But maybe you and your sister should try to find a place together and let your father care for his youngest children without your help. I'm sure it will be hard because you seem to really love your family and want the best for them, but you deserve what's best for you, too.
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    Font - Icy-Championship-610 - 8 hr. ago NTA. This is none of my business but perhaps a conversation about birth control options might be in order with your SM. Everyone is clearly struggling with the repercussions of a large family so adding more children now isn't logical. I don't know where you are located in the world but advocating for long term birth control after SM gives birth may be a solution.

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